tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9734979933812504432024-03-15T09:30:36.610-07:00Lee Miller, A Therapist's BlogAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04291090659497374363noreply@blogger.comBlogger197125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-82311155354813639822024-03-15T09:30:00.001-07:002024-03-15T09:30:00.140-07:00Managing Financial Stress: Psychological Coping Strategies<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><span id="docs-internal-guid-05387874-7fff-8651-0e24-e6a15cdf7784"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2OLRJWzTRj_rOoxDrh5U_wn_rbd87JThBZPzetdghwgCFevO-8kjiNvasGvOEl0PMWqUhhoA-3NVQGyYkzAwyNlfCQoV8K11sCziicNALRCJSQr0sbguITQ7rz7IRfryijedHsg96YrfI63vY8u0R7RjYec7NyzHZ8uz6ZQRpX4JrvgN2kYuaZslKdiy6/s1518/Screen%20Shot%202024-03-14%20at%205.36.58%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="840" data-original-width="1518" height="177" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2OLRJWzTRj_rOoxDrh5U_wn_rbd87JThBZPzetdghwgCFevO-8kjiNvasGvOEl0PMWqUhhoA-3NVQGyYkzAwyNlfCQoV8K11sCziicNALRCJSQr0sbguITQ7rz7IRfryijedHsg96YrfI63vY8u0R7RjYec7NyzHZ8uz6ZQRpX4JrvgN2kYuaZslKdiy6/s320/Screen%20Shot%202024-03-14%20at%205.36.58%20PM.png" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Managing Financial Stress: </div></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Psychological Coping Strategies</span></div><span><br /><span> </span>As tax season rolls around, many of us find ourselves grappling with increased financial stress. Whether it's worrying about owed taxes, managing expenses, or simply the daunting task of organizing financial documents, tax season can take a toll on one's mental well-being. However, there are effective psychological coping strategies that can help alleviate this stress and promote a sense of control and resilience during this time.<br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Practice Mindfulness:</b> Engage in mindfulness techniques to stay grounded and present. Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or simply focusing on your senses can help reduce stress and promote a sense of calm amidst financial worries.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Break Tasks Into Manageable Steps:</b> Tax-related tasks can seem overwhelming when viewed as a whole. Break them down into smaller, manageable steps to prevent feeling overwhelmed. Create a checklist and tackle one task at a time, celebrating each small accomplishment along the way.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Focus on What You Can Control: </b>While there may be aspects of your financial situation that are beyond your control, focus on the aspects that you can influence. Take proactive steps such as budgeting, saving, and seeking opportunities to increase your income. By focusing on actionable steps, you can regain a sense of control over your finances.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Challenge Negative Thoughts:</b> Financial stress often leads to negative thinking patterns such as catastrophizing or self-blame. Challenge these thoughts by examining evidence, considering alternative perspectives, and practicing self-compassion. Remind yourself that financial difficulties are temporary and that you have the resilience to overcome them.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Maintain Perspective:</b> Remember that tax season is just a temporary period of heightened financial stress. Keep things in perspective by focusing on the bigger picture of your overall financial health and well-being. Reflect on past challenges you've overcome and draw strength from your resilience.</li></ul><span><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><span><span><br /></span></span></div> </span>While taxes and other financial problems may bring about financial stress, these events also present an opportunity for personal growth and resilience. By implementing these strategies and embracing the challenges with a positive mindset, you can transform financial stress into a period of empowerment and financial well-being. Remember, you have the strength and resources within you to navigate through any financial turbulence that comes your way. Stay focused, stay mindful, and emerge from tax season stronger than ever before.<div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span></div><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-59235721697058252002024-03-15T09:30:00.000-07:002024-03-15T09:30:00.139-07:00Thriving Amidst Life's Constant Evolution<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO7ngonktAyRowKmfMT3KDvAUDWO1R5lgZNUKveBjx2cu4Vnka5h7bo5MVHAM-oLA5Z6eklfIWKL8YEkrOkMsKBT1hPBbNuT04i2q_aOIMd2TbpbiClecnSvl5x9JEqrExyOkA3FgKSliRswUWFc0jLt5qMSXWLgUWSmgKHckX3penYgfb57Dy7pPczJUw/s1532/Screen%20Shot%202024-03-14%20at%205.24.24%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="788" data-original-width="1532" height="229" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO7ngonktAyRowKmfMT3KDvAUDWO1R5lgZNUKveBjx2cu4Vnka5h7bo5MVHAM-oLA5Z6eklfIWKL8YEkrOkMsKBT1hPBbNuT04i2q_aOIMd2TbpbiClecnSvl5x9JEqrExyOkA3FgKSliRswUWFc0jLt5qMSXWLgUWSmgKHckX3penYgfb57Dy7pPczJUw/w445-h229/Screen%20Shot%202024-03-14%20at%205.24.24%20PM.png" width="445" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><span> </span>Change is the only constant in life. From career shifts to moving homes, from evolving relationships to technological breakthroughs, change permeates every aspect of our existence. Yet, despite its inevitability, coping with change remains a challenge for most of us.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><span> </span>Change brings up many feelings: excitement, fear, uncertainty, and even sadness. It disrupts our routines, challenges our comfort zones, and pushes us into the unknown. However, amidst the turbulence of change lies an opportunity for growth, resilience, and self-discovery. Here are some strategies to help navigate the waves of change:</span></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Embrace a Growth Mindset:</b> Cultivate a mindset that sees change as an opportunity for learning and development. Instead of resisting or fearing change, embrace it as a chance to expand your horizons, acquire new skills, and explore different perspectives.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Practice Self-Compassion:</b> Change can be unsettling, and it's natural to feel overwhelmed at times. Be kind to yourself during periods of transition. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment and allow yourself the time and space to adjust.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Focus on What You Can Control:</b> While some changes are beyond our control, focusing on what we can control empowers us to take proactive steps towards managing change effectively. Identify aspects of the situation that you have influence over and channel your energy into taking constructive actions.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Seek Support:</b> During times of change, seeking support from friends, family, or a professional can provide invaluable comfort and guidance. Share your thoughts and feelings with trusted individuals who can offer encouragement, perspective, and practical advice. Remember, you don't have to navigate change alone.</li></ul><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Practice Mindfulness:</b> Mindfulness involves being fully present in the moment, without judgment. Amidst the whirlwind of change, practicing mindfulness can help ground you, reduce anxiety, and enhance your capacity to adapt. Engage in mindfulness practices such as meditation, deep breathing, or simply paying attention to your surroundings.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Celebrate Progress:</b> Celebrate small victories along the journey of change. Recognize and appreciate the progress you've made, no matter how incremental it may seem. Each step forward, no matter how small, brings you closer to adapting and thriving in the face of change.</li></ul><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><span> </span>Coping with change is a skill that can be cultivated through practice and self-awareness. By embracing methods of coping and moving forward, you can navigate life's inevitable transitions with resilience and grace. Remember, change is not the end of the road; it's a new beginning, brimming with possibilities. Embrace it, and let it propel you towards greater growth and fulfillment</span></p><div><span data-canva-clipboard="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"></span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-39415718711305831402024-02-26T08:30:00.000-08:002024-02-26T08:30:00.134-08:00Embracing Love Beyond Romance<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNIod3eoYqdreyT0bZeyavQ9vyaQmPg-PesgKInToMrdp3kHZR3SckqMFgU-Snk2U-SBlxjfLG_M1zHSxAfze9U2yxjj_bJpkt7ro6HRiS7wBfB5_3qPLYp9mWg5ROjkGS1u530GwyosMegE4pwEAomiK_NZNifiA2JQJSUp864nfWAlZ9JjcXi9spjpIT/s952/Screen%20Shot%202024-02-21%20at%206.56.18%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="910" data-original-width="952" height="306" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNIod3eoYqdreyT0bZeyavQ9vyaQmPg-PesgKInToMrdp3kHZR3SckqMFgU-Snk2U-SBlxjfLG_M1zHSxAfze9U2yxjj_bJpkt7ro6HRiS7wBfB5_3qPLYp9mWg5ROjkGS1u530GwyosMegE4pwEAomiK_NZNifiA2JQJSUp864nfWAlZ9JjcXi9spjpIT/s320/Screen%20Shot%202024-02-21%20at%206.56.18%20PM.png" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">Embracing Love Beyond Romance</div><span id="docs-internal-guid-08ce3551-7fff-4b30-4cb9-f3ddffb65e4c"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Divorce and child custody mediation can be emotionally tumultuous journeys, marked by the dissolution of romantic relationships and the restructuring of family dynamics. Amidst the legal proceedings and logistical arrangements, it's easy to overlook the importance of nurturing love and connection beyond the realm of romance. However, embracing a broader understanding of love can be instrumental in navigating the challenges of divorce and fostering healthy co-parenting relationships. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Love is a multifaceted and dynamic force that extends far beyond the confines of romantic relationships. While romantic love often takes center stage in our cultural narratives, there are numerous other forms of love that are equally essential and transformative. Here are some strategies for modeling love beyond romantic love in this context:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Communication:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Foster open, honest, and respectful communication with your co-parent. Focus on active listening, empathy, and finding common ground for the well-being of your children.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Cooperation:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Approach negotiations and decision-making with a spirit of cooperation and collaboration. Prioritize the needs and best interests of your children above individual grievances or disputes.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Compassion:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Practice compassion towards yourself and your co-parent as you navigate the complexities of divorce and co-parenting. Recognize that both of you are doing the best you can under challenging circumstances.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Consistency:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Maintain consistency and reliability in your co-parenting arrangements to provide stability and predictability for your children. Honor commitments and agreements to build trust and mutual respect.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Boundaries:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Establish clear boundaries with your co-parent to protect your emotional well-being and maintain healthy boundaries. Respect each other's autonomy and space while prioritizing cooperation for the sake of your children.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Divorce and child custody mediation can be transformative opportunities for growth, healing, and the cultivation of love beyond romantic love. By embracing self-love, parental love, familial love, and friendship, and incorporating these principles into mediation proceedings, you can lay the foundation for healthy co-parenting relationships and a brighter future for your family. Remember that love is a boundless and resilient force that transcends the boundaries of romantic relationships—it is present in every act of kindness, compassion, and connection we share with others.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-80737477248868373522024-02-22T08:45:00.000-08:002024-02-22T08:45:00.146-08:00The Illusion of Shared Meaning<p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1K47ehbgqnrBODX18qP7n150S65Gfpx_vELzZAjVRbPD-hZesnfrBSOpVxuPx1k-yVrDieWlOn6thoazWSD8p40Zh673b3JzVeqauBP3SjtQKAKiTni1iLKnKVvvYM5cJK-qbi0RHNAtI2LQFJ2rgw__7YS-y7P8ww7tWa-Uf3pKLXhE-TwSYUxI-0oOE/s1340/Screen%20Shot%202024-02-21%20at%207.34.25%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="398" data-original-width="1340" height="191" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1K47ehbgqnrBODX18qP7n150S65Gfpx_vELzZAjVRbPD-hZesnfrBSOpVxuPx1k-yVrDieWlOn6thoazWSD8p40Zh673b3JzVeqauBP3SjtQKAKiTni1iLKnKVvvYM5cJK-qbi0RHNAtI2LQFJ2rgw__7YS-y7P8ww7tWa-Uf3pKLXhE-TwSYUxI-0oOE/w644-h191/Screen%20Shot%202024-02-21%20at%207.34.25%20PM.png" width="644" /></a></div><p></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: center; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The Illusion of Shared Meaning</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-3141c677-7fff-9761-7e6b-cf860fb6f216"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It's a scenario we've all experienced: two people engage in a conversation, each assuming they're on the same page, only to realize later that they've been talking past each other. This phenomenon, known as the illusion of shared meaning, occurs when individuals mistakenly believe they are interpreting words and messages in the same way. This discrepancy can lead to misunderstandings, conflict, and breakdowns in communication. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Even with the best intentions, misunderstandings can still arise. When they do, it's essential to address them with patience, humility, and a commitment to resolution. Instead of assigning blame or making assumptions, approach misunderstandings as opportunities for clarification and deeper understanding. Ask open-ended questions, seek clarification, and strive to see the situation from the other person's perspective. By fostering open, honest communication, you can resolve misunderstandings and strengthen your connection with others.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Several strategies can enhance clarity and minimize the risk of misunderstanding:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Active Listening:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Pay close attention to the words, tone, and body language of the person you're communicating with. Reflect back what you've heard to confirm understanding and demonstrate empathy.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Clarification: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Don't hesitate to ask for clarification if something is unclear or ambiguous. Likewise, offer clarification when you sense confusion on the part of the other person. It's better to err on the side of over-communication than to leave room for misunderstanding.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Empathy: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Put yourself in the other person's shoes and consider how they might be interpreting your words and actions. Cultivate empathy and understanding, even when you disagree.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Feedback:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Solicit feedback from the other person to ensure that your message has been received as intended. Encourage them to express any concerns or questions they may have, and address them openly and honestly.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Prioritizing clarity in communication fosters shared understanding, deepening connections and resolving conflicts effectively. By cultivating transparent communication, we build stronger relationships and navigate life's complexities with greater ease. Communication is a dynamic dance of words, meanings, and interpretations—a delicate balance that requires constant attention and effort. By prioritizing clarity, empathy, and open communication, you can foster deeper connections, resolve conflicts, and cultivate relationships built on a foundation of shared understanding.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-62829952905457032032024-01-27T14:39:00.000-08:002024-01-27T14:40:12.910-08:00A Psychological Approach to Achievable Goals<span 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style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px; text-align: center;"><p><img data-original-height="1192" data-original-width="1322" height="361" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjI2Il2jbZVh9lldgRCv14OGluGqFwMbuwaSI3ypRvsReMfMpe4aZZYKQ2Cecay275t1Eeift7WdKN1lYJbVsx3C-zdNV7GP_6U9aR2dajhVBc5fWwD6JlW8FJs4td5ZCWUnrQDj29fLSvfpbeTpGRfie0eQhYNvvbDH5bsTaAYLzS0wiPN9ggMwdDUjl9x=w400-h361" width="400" /></p></div><div style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><div style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px; text-align: center;"><p><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;"><u>A Psychological Approach to Achievable Goals</u></span></p></div><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">As we stand one month into a new year, the allure of setting ambitious resolutions is palpable. This is a great time in the year to explore the psychology of self-forgiveness for unfulfilled resolutions and outline strategies for crafting realistic, approachable goals from a psychological perspective.</span><p></p></div><div style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><p><br /><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Facing the Reality of Resolutions:</span></p></div><ul style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Being Real: Acknowledging the common pitfalls of lofty resolutions is a crucial step. Unrealistic goals often lead to frustration, hindering psychological well-being rather than fostering positive change.</span></li><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">The Healing Power of Self-Forgiveness: The psychological benefits of self-forgiveness are profound. Releasing guilt and reducing stress lay the foundation for authentic personal growth, promoting a healthier mental state.</span></li></ul><div style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><p><br /><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Crafting Achievable Goals:</span></p></div><ul style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Reflecting and Reframing: Mindful reflection on past resolutions guides the process of setting more realistic, achievable goals. Aligning goals with personal capabilities and circumstances is crucial from a psychological standpoint.</span></li><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Small Steps, Big Wins: Advocating for the impact of incremental changes aligns with psychological principles. Breaking down larger goals into manageable steps provides individuals with a sense of accomplishment and fosters sustainable progress.</span></li><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">SMART Goal Mastery: Introducing SMART goals as a psychological framework—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound—enhances goal-setting effectiveness. This structured approach increases the likelihood of success based on psychological principles</span></li><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Embracing Adaptability: Recognizing the value of adaptability aligns with psychological resilience. Adjusting goals based on changing circumstances fosters psychological strength and determination.</span></li><li style="list-style: disc;"><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">Building a Support System: Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals is emphasized from a psychological perspective. Sharing goals and progress with a support system provides psychological encouragement and accountability.</span></li></ul><div style="direction: ltr; line-height: 1.38; margin-left: 0px;"><p><br /><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0em;">In the pursuit of personal growth, self-forgiveness and achievable goals form the bedrock of success from a psychological standpoint. Embracing the psychological principles of the journey, forgiving setbacks, and confidently stepping towards a fulfilling and triumphant new year is integral to psychological well-being.<br /></span></p></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-42113027090284609362024-01-16T14:52:00.000-08:002024-01-16T14:52:56.464-08:00Self-Reflection: A Year-End Journey of Appreciation<div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEizX8NNPbPObiBDPW3pZSaemr120P30MBwiiZD7tgdjIa6cIHttqtDaoJuNnrDcRyXs8jgdy-PPqGMVm4IZhzXeJQZyr-lZJgvArjpmZFOxnygwxkspmA6s82cgf07OOVQiS4e7API8I6eDzTb5chv1L6AAn43nedlkmDIh21EzGHh8QA1vAxVBExwCvYk4" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><img data-original-height="400" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEizX8NNPbPObiBDPW3pZSaemr120P30MBwiiZD7tgdjIa6cIHttqtDaoJuNnrDcRyXs8jgdy-PPqGMVm4IZhzXeJQZyr-lZJgvArjpmZFOxnygwxkspmA6s82cgf07OOVQiS4e7API8I6eDzTb5chv1L6AAn43nedlkmDIh21EzGHh8QA1vAxVBExwCvYk4=w640-h320" width="640" /></span></a></div><span style="font-family: georgia;"><br /><br /></span></div><div><span id="docs-internal-guid-b9d0a5ae-7fff-f8e0-1f85-4b81dce5b245" style="font-family: georgia;"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As we approach the year's end and the holidays, a natural inclination arises to turn inward, contemplating the experiences that shaped us. </span></p><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">The Essence of Self-Reflection:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Self-reflection activates brain regions associated with self-awareness, emotional regulation, and personal growth. There is a transformative power in taking a moment to pause and look inward.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Nurturing Gratitude</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">There are great psychological benefits of expressing gratitude for both positive and challenging aspects of the year. Contemplating gratitude, can help us understand how gratitude rewires the brain, fostering resilience and emotional well-being.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Celebrating Personal Achievements:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">We can recognize that acknowledging accomplishments enhances self-esteem and motivation. Recognizing strengths sets the stage for meaningful goal-setting in the coming year.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Embracing a Growth Mindset:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Adopting a growth mindset fosters resilience, adaptability, and eagerness to learn from experiences</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Mindful Living and Stress Reduction:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Mindfulness practices seamlessly integrate into self-reflection, reducing stress and enhancing overall well-being.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Setting Positive Intentions:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Framing goals in a positive light profoundly impacts motivation and resilience. Explore practical strategies that work for </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">you</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> to cultivate a sense of purpose for the upcoming year.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As the year concludes, self-reflection becomes a valuable psychological compass for personal growth and well-being. Grasping the cognitive and emotional benefits of looking inward, expressing gratitude, and setting positive intentions paves the way for a more mindful and fulfilling journey ahead. Take a moment to reflect, appreciate, and embrace the transformative power of self-reflection as you transition into a new chapter of your life.</span></p></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-20074741912303728202023-12-20T16:28:00.000-08:002023-12-20T16:30:58.515-08:00Unlocking the Power of the Mind-Body Connection<p><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span> </span></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgW4fKIqyI4IePfZAPMk-I-Wtf1hvVLTwVl-vqyEEh0t-jAzgSUGcj9PLLgLo1Xr7911vSZxshNHmhJBTW83wHHYu2xM42IFtIre8TirW6hjkyYbRExj2y2uMzTszFZwAt3d7YsXuGM36EhEcUe3SArm3Gg9WJSQSe2M9fkzo8alN3LMQt5ksplxT-W2Dv5" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1580" data-original-width="2214" height="285" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgW4fKIqyI4IePfZAPMk-I-Wtf1hvVLTwVl-vqyEEh0t-jAzgSUGcj9PLLgLo1Xr7911vSZxshNHmhJBTW83wHHYu2xM42IFtIre8TirW6hjkyYbRExj2y2uMzTszFZwAt3d7YsXuGM36EhEcUe3SArm3Gg9WJSQSe2M9fkzo8alN3LMQt5ksplxT-W2Dv5=w400-h285" width="400" /></a></div><p><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In the intricate tapestry of human existence, the mind and body are not separate entities but interconnected. They have a powerful influence on each other. The fast growing field of psychosomatic medicine reinforces the intricate dance between mental and physical well-being. In this blog post, we embark on a journey to unravel the mysteries of the mind-body connection and explore how understanding and nurturing this delicate relationship can enhance overall health and psychological resilience. Here are some places to start:</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-4279f28e-7fff-e665-e1d7-f4c491745265"><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"><u>The Physiology of Emotion</u>:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">At the heart of the mind-body connection is the intricate interplay between our emotions and physiological responses. Emotions trigger all kinds of physiologic responses, such as the release of stress hormones and the impact on heart rate and immune function. When our brains go into the flight -or - fight response, both our mental and physical health is affected. </span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"><u>The Impact of Stress on the Body</u>:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Stress,, manifests itself physically, wreaking havoc on various bodily systems. Stress affects our cardiovascular system, immune function, and even the digestive system. Chronic stress can contribute to the development of various physical ailments and the importance of managing stress for overall well-being.</span></p></li></ul></ul><u><br /></u><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"><u>Mindfulness and the Art of Presence</u>:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Mindfulness is a powerful tool for cultivating a harmonious mind-body relationship. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, can modulate the stress response, promote relaxation, and foster a sense of well-being.</span></p></li></ul></ul><br /><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"><u>The Role of Lifestyle Factors</u>:</span></p></li><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="2" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; list-style-type: circle; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Lifestyle choices, including diet, exercise, and sleep, have an effect on both mental and physical health. Adopting a holistic approach to well-being can positively influence the mind-body connection, contributing to a more resilient and balanced life.</span></p></li></ul></ul></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-3615432937985772862023-11-29T16:23:00.000-08:002023-11-29T16:23:01.762-08:00Be Vulnerable and Get Support<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7lc4wgVWy_NT7a_Q01XwxqzV7yLkST4Xoy8TLr2pYQcY0CtsBaG47EPGM3rw70RmGFpOb9ysHRKh-E6BlKwbv_xQddGSG-ekdLSia6MaLQqrquGhCNwmjAoRX_XbFqgOdx9sslpXAJr0zw7E2-sbAD9e5pya9GqPhoK2FC11UHxHkMprEErzD_pA4TPa9/s1920/adjusted.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1920" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7lc4wgVWy_NT7a_Q01XwxqzV7yLkST4Xoy8TLr2pYQcY0CtsBaG47EPGM3rw70RmGFpOb9ysHRKh-E6BlKwbv_xQddGSG-ekdLSia6MaLQqrquGhCNwmjAoRX_XbFqgOdx9sslpXAJr0zw7E2-sbAD9e5pya9GqPhoK2FC11UHxHkMprEErzD_pA4TPa9/w640-h400/adjusted.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div>In a world that often celebrates independence and self-sufficiency, the notion of asking for help can be viewed as a sign of weakness. However, looking deeper into yourself reveals a different truth — one that emphasizes the strength and resilience that comes from acknowledging our vulnerabilities and seeking support.</div><br />In many cultures, there exists a stigma around admitting vulnerability or seeking assistance. This stigma can be deeply ingrained, often stemming from societal expectations or personal beliefs. However, it's crucial to recognize that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but rather an acknowledgment of our shared humanity.<br /><br />Professional support can also be a valuable resource. This could mean either seeking professional support for yourself through therapy, or discussing relevant stressors with peers. Many people hold misconceptions about support from others despite its positive impact. This sometimes steers people away from seeking support because they worry their support system cannot handle the issues at hand. <br /><br />Here’s what you can do to create YOUR healthy support system:<br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Reciprocity:</li><ul><li>Emphasize the importance of reciprocal relationships in maintaining a strong support system.</li><li>Discuss ways to contribute to others' well-being within your network.</li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Communication:</li><ul><li>Stress the role of open communication in maintaining healthy relationships.</li><li>Express your needs and boundaries effectively.</li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Self-Care:</li><ul><li>Acknowledge the importance of self-care in sustaining your ability to support others.</li><li>Incorporate self-care practices into daily life.</li></ul></ul><div>The journey towards mental and emotional well-being often involves the courage to ask for help and the wisdom to cultivate a strong support system. By dismantling the stigma associated with vulnerability, we empower ourselves and others to embrace the strength that comes from authentic connections. Remember, it's not only okay to ask for help, but it's a vital step towards personal growth and resilience.<br /><p></p></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-33592733309251997632023-11-29T16:07:00.000-08:002023-11-29T16:08:42.897-08:00Guarding Your Time: Setting Boundaries for a Healthier You<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhhsGcgx-3zsDVCn06iCZ8xpY4jY9iyOxusfkmkv4g1XtqQOuLHX_QOes-eD_UFv9zxXzdF2rHJR1Ryv-Dk8pWQO2X74FO0qhC3y6V9wAvmHMPX6xo2uWS8ACLOQF-t9879EzSgEmGEf5xynVwA81oqaJoKhvEcms6gnr_2YPqYDbsLVv0EAV0JuTht-Epx" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="628" data-original-width="1200" height="334" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhhsGcgx-3zsDVCn06iCZ8xpY4jY9iyOxusfkmkv4g1XtqQOuLHX_QOes-eD_UFv9zxXzdF2rHJR1Ryv-Dk8pWQO2X74FO0qhC3y6V9wAvmHMPX6xo2uWS8ACLOQF-t9879EzSgEmGEf5xynVwA81oqaJoKhvEcms6gnr_2YPqYDbsLVv0EAV0JuTht-Epx=w640-h334" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> Time, the most finite and precious resource, often slips away without notice. In a fast-paced world where demands on our time seem endless, establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is a crucial aspect of psychological well-being. In this blog post, we'll delve into the psychology of time management and explore the significance of setting boundaries to foster a healthier, more balanced life.<br /><br />People perceive and value time differently so take a look at how you see your time in measure of value. Try to be open to discussing others’ time-value systems as well. Time-related pressure is a major stressor for many people that often slides under the radar until we look closely at the psychological toll of overcommitment and constant busyness. <br /><br />Here are some suggestions to increasing awareness of your own time-related needs, and how to address them in our very busy, ever shifting world:<br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Recognizing Your Limits</b>:</li><ul><li>Encourage self-reflection to identify personal time constraints and energy levels.</li><li>Set and maintain realistic boundaries that reflect your true needs and abilities.</li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Prioritization and Goal Setting</b>:</li><ul><li>Prioritize tasks that take items off your plate or that serve your need, and compartmentalize items that cannot be taken care of in the moment.</li><li>Set meaningful goals that inspire, motivate, and bring happiness to you. These can be large or small; whatever is most impactful for you.</li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Saying No Without Guilt</b>:</li><ul><li>It’s hard to say no without feeling guilt or FOMO (fear of missing out) but it is important to recognize that it may be contrary to <i>your</i> needs if you were to say yes.</li><li>It may be easier to conceptualize as making a formal plan to “meet” with yourself; you are not saying “no” to someone else so much as you are saying “yes” to yourself first.</li></ul></ul><p>In a world where time is both a precious resource and a potential source of stress, the ability to set and maintain boundaries is a powerful psychological tool. By understanding the nuances of time perception, recognizing personal limits, and implementing effective strategies, individuals can cultivate a healthier relationship with time. Remember, guarding your time is not just about productivity; it's a vital step towards nurturing your mental and emotional well-being.</p><span id="docs-internal-guid-b84e0e07-7fff-5961-2bf9-9b8a4054eee6"><div><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-41404065713606347722023-09-28T14:28:00.001-07:002023-09-28T14:28:03.663-07:00A Firm Foundation: Emotional Regulation<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEigloizAMfavybLsWMXAdbb3fcHb0ZjDWVu1EEx7V5GvQ1UGDi2GnK1YrRrXcOE3xUdUwSKzsAxIjSFZVr6_4YGK3Fh1HpXBgjyDm8fZrDIKlNUioCEE3ntz4AubV3Gl9lPWsCydSHQQtgEFqlPnS4_j-cAHUtUE27MK50--2M6jlKywpor9yu_tnTx0IiC" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1672" data-original-width="2508" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEigloizAMfavybLsWMXAdbb3fcHb0ZjDWVu1EEx7V5GvQ1UGDi2GnK1YrRrXcOE3xUdUwSKzsAxIjSFZVr6_4YGK3Fh1HpXBgjyDm8fZrDIKlNUioCEE3ntz4AubV3Gl9lPWsCydSHQQtgEFqlPnS4_j-cAHUtUE27MK50--2M6jlKywpor9yu_tnTx0IiC=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br />Emotional regulation is foundational in navigating the world around us. <p></p><p>It is a cornerstone of well-being. Emotional regulation is the process by which we manage, understand, and adjust our feelings in response to life’s ups and downs. Emotion regulation isn’t about suppressing emotions, it is about navigating them effectively, allowing us to thrive and function at our best. Prioritizing regulation creates a harmonious internal environment that empowers us to handle challenges, build strong relationships and lead fulfilling lives.</p><p><br />When we experience an emotion, our brain intricately responds. The amygdala, our emotional control center, sounds an alert, while the prefrontal cortex evaluates the situation and guides our response. Effective emotion regulation strengthens the connection between these regions, enabling us to engage in thoughtful responses rather than impulsive reactions.<br /><br />Consider using these 4 strategies to promote emotional regulation in your daily life:<br /><br /></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Mindfulness and Meditation</b>: Practicing mindfulness enhances our awareness of emotions without judgment. Meditation techniques encourage a non-reactive response to feelings, allowing us to acknowledge them and let them pass. The “Calm” app or “Headspace” app are great resources for practicing mindfulness.<br /><br /></li><li><b>Emotion Labeling</b>: Verbalizing our emotions has a calming effect on the brain. When we name our emotions, the prefrontal cortex exerts greater control over the amygdala, reducing its intensity.<br /><br /></li><li><b>Cognitive Restructuring</b>: This involves challenging and reframing negative thought patterns. By identifying and altering distorted beliefs, we can change how we perceive and react to situations.<br /><br /></li><li><b>Healthy Lifestyle Choices</b>: Regular exercise, sufficient sleep, and a balanced diet directly impact our emotional well-being. Physical well-being supports mental resilience, making it easier to regulate emotions effectively.</li></ol><br />Remember, emotion regulation is a skill that requires practice and patience. It is about acknowledging that all emotions are valid and learning to manage them constructively. By nurturing this skill, individuals can empower themselves to navigate life’s challenges with resilience, empathy, and grace. If you have acknowledged that this is an area of growth for you and you would like support as you walk through this process, please reach out to our offices for support and guidance (<a href="mailto:leemiller.therapist@gmail.com">leemiller.therapist@gmail.com</a>) <br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br /> <p></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-8e54991b-7fff-df59-b8ca-6811f508fcba"><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-36976912777358581262023-09-17T18:42:00.002-07:002023-09-17T18:42:45.522-07:00Everyday Secrets to Success: Nature and Movement<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhdXQy8CxJhgQG7ic_XBN68_qTACo5h1fv4E8TF_moXw_zs3ESShGgaQWn7GiRaGg-2lCDAoIkADeHPCVi5jrfwAJn5j4V-ck2EnbopCoaivGTmcXbG_yO7OH35tRvCVjjzRUptDma6g8gtcH5T63UrsvKCRijULp7DEoWyCHPzwX4Y7Xobz59ptYoq8khC" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhdXQy8CxJhgQG7ic_XBN68_qTACo5h1fv4E8TF_moXw_zs3ESShGgaQWn7GiRaGg-2lCDAoIkADeHPCVi5jrfwAJn5j4V-ck2EnbopCoaivGTmcXbG_yO7OH35tRvCVjjzRUptDma6g8gtcH5T63UrsvKCRijULp7DEoWyCHPzwX4Y7Xobz59ptYoq8khC=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Everyday Secrets to Success: Nature and Movement</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; text-align: left; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; text-align: left; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: arial;">In today’s world, prioritizing mental well-being is top of mind. It is valuable to identify simple, everyday, attainable routines that promote mental health. Within the chaos of daily life, two powerful, yet often overlooked tools stand out: the peace that can be found within nature, and the rhythm of movement. Here is why these every day hacks are essential for enhancing and sustaining your mental health:</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Nature</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">: Spending time in nature can have profound effects on our mental state. The calming influence of natural landscapes reduces stress, anxiety, and even depression. The soothing sounds, refreshing scents, and vibrant colors of the outdoors engage our senses, which induces relaxation and rejuvenation. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Movement:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Movement increases mood. Physical activity triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural mood elevators. Engaging in regular movement, whether through a daily walk or an intense workout, helps alleviate negative emotions and fosters a sense of accomplishment. The chemical response not only boosts mood but also promotes overall mental resilience.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Incorporating Nature and Movement into your Everyday Life:</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Mindful Moments: </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Consider beginning your day with a mindful moment in nature. Whether it is a few minutes of bird-watching from your balcony or a walk in the park, engage fully with your surroundings. Consciously observe the details. Notice the rustling leaves, the sunlight on your skin, the leaves changing colors. Use this time to let go of your daily worries.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 700; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Activity Integration:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Integrate movement into your routine. Choose activities that resonate with you, be it dancing, jogging, or practicing yoga. Start with achievable goals and gradually increase your intensity. Maybe finding a friend or family member to join you for added motivation?</span></span></p><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Remember, building these habits takes time and patience. Start small, setting aside a few minutes each day for nature and movement. Gradually, these practices will become an integral part of your routine, promoting mental well-being that’s built to last. Use the calm that nature brings and the energy that comes from movement to support your mental health. These are everyday secrets that have the ability to transform your routine. </span></span></p><div><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><br /></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-43804724665855130962023-08-25T10:09:00.000-07:002023-08-25T10:09:57.260-07:00Building Friendships in Adulthood<p><br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhk-dRcJ7ITbjfUy0TUSlxSQpzr-aeJnwEsRglJI-un-nIbMkYfYSVkmdli8HPV8n9FJi6RqfOU1dE-atT5BmFOiMCbFZJVbleoim7pD8aBBdXrveBfzfJRbZvqVGsgeffY2rxOY9FIyzTU7PbPorw6-7v1yWU_lCwsNaebXU1gUpaeSMbcX7Wa9zrL6-Ei" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="3712" data-original-width="5568" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhk-dRcJ7ITbjfUy0TUSlxSQpzr-aeJnwEsRglJI-un-nIbMkYfYSVkmdli8HPV8n9FJi6RqfOU1dE-atT5BmFOiMCbFZJVbleoim7pD8aBBdXrveBfzfJRbZvqVGsgeffY2rxOY9FIyzTU7PbPorw6-7v1yWU_lCwsNaebXU1gUpaeSMbcX7Wa9zrL6-Ei=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: left; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: left; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; text-align: left;">In a world filled with hectic schedules, responsibilities, and constant distractions, nurturing adult friendships can oftentimes take a back seat. As you step into new seasons of marriage, parenting and prioritizing your career, it is crucial to not allow your adult friendships to fall by the wayside. Adult friendships have the potential to create a positive ripple throughout your life and can strengthen your overall well-being. Consider these compelling reasons as to why you need adult friendships in your life and how to cultivate them, especially if you’re finding it challenging.</span></div></span></div><p></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-5fc58351-7fff-42d0-3acb-a365e4f62201"><ol style="margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 0; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: decimal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Emotional Support and Empathy</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">: As we navigate the complexities of adulthood, having friends who genuinely understand and empathize with our experiences is invaluable. Adult friends provide a safe space where you can openly share your feelings, struggles, and triumphs without judgment. They offer a unique perspective and emotional support, helping you to cope with life’s ups and downs.</span></p></li><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: decimal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Improved Mental Health:</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> Adult friendships also play a significant role in boosting mental health. Engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing laughter, and spending quality time with friends’ releases endorphins, reduces stress and anxiety. These connections act as a buffer against feelings of loneliness, which is becoming more common in today’s digital world.</span></p></li><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: decimal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Personal Growth:</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> Friendships enrich our lives through diverse perspectives and shared experiences. Surrounding yourself with a varied group of friends exposes you to new ideas, hobbies and interests you might never have discovered otherwise. Friendship is a supportive environment to learn from each other and experience personal growth.</span></p></li></ol><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">If you’re finding it difficult to foster and maintain adult friendships, know that you’re not alone. Here are some strategies to help you build meaningful connections:</span></p><ul style="margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 0; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Join a Social Group</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">: Participate in activities or organizations aligned with your interests. This will put you in contact with like-minded individuals, making it easier to form genuine connections. There are several apps and creative ways to find social groups in your area.</span></p></li></ul><ul style="margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 0; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Be Open and Approachable</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">: approach potential friends with openness and a positive attitude. Small gestures like initiating conversations and active listening can lay the foundation for lasting friendships.</span></p></li><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">Embrace Vulnerability</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-wrap: wrap; vertical-align: baseline;">: Be willing to share your thoughts and feelings authentically. Vulnerability fosters trust and allows others to relate to you on a deeper level.</span></p></li></ul><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Friendships are an essential component of a fulfilled and balanced life! Prioritize these relationships, invest into them and you will reap the reward of a stronger emotional well-being, and a richer, more connected life. Remember, it is never too late to form a new friendship! </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">If you are struggling to make friends, sustain friendships or navigate the loss of a friendship, call our offices for support and guidance,</span></p><div><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-51785907196578546222023-08-16T06:02:00.000-07:002023-08-16T06:02:27.852-07:00Can You Believe it is Time for School? <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDyuRKzDczK1WXcMlB-2knY2gbT-6S7H3tcnxFtK36DHv6Cwe5FPXBUn571s-O_n4gYfGt7GEhz5oBsX0HCeb8j2UIsCZ1hzneIgWFzZSvIon0YInwjJv7owABfNtJvHRWSdBifRrsK3tj1sZkhDswiUGxubYPnnkOTTaRkY877xJvEeZHbWFxe3Y8N5Gc/s4080/school.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2965" data-original-width="4080" height="466" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDyuRKzDczK1WXcMlB-2knY2gbT-6S7H3tcnxFtK36DHv6Cwe5FPXBUn571s-O_n4gYfGt7GEhz5oBsX0HCeb8j2UIsCZ1hzneIgWFzZSvIon0YInwjJv7owABfNtJvHRWSdBifRrsK3tj1sZkhDswiUGxubYPnnkOTTaRkY877xJvEeZHbWFxe3Y8N5Gc/w640-h466/school.jpg" width="640" /></a></div></div></div><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;">Maybe August brings a feeling of relief because your family thrives off of a school routine, or maybe you are feeling a tinge of sadness, because your family thrives off of a summer schedule. Either way, we are about to pivot and head back into a school schedule and routine! Let’s unpack how to prepare your family for the transition of summer ending and the beginning of a new school year.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: center; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As the summer days wind down and the new school year looms on the horizon, intentionality is crucial in how you help children transition smoothly from the carefree days of vacation to the structured routine of the academic year. Consider these points when it comes to preparing your children from this upcoming change:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">1.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Gradual Shift in Routine</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">: One of the most effective ways to prepare your child for the end of the summer is to implement a gradual shift in their daily routine. Start by gradually adjusting their bedtime and waking hours to align with the school schedule. This will help their bodies and minds adapt to the new rhythm, making the first day of school less of a shock to their system. Also, consider reintroducing small academic activities, like reading, a few weeks before school begins to help reignite their cognitive functions and sharpen their focus.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">2.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Encourage Open Dialogue</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">: It is natural for children to experience a mix of emotions as summer ends and the school year starts. Encourage open dialogue with your child about their feelings and concerns regarding the upcoming changes. Validate their emotions and offer reassurance that it is okay to feel a little anxious or excited. Discuss any apprehensions they might have and address them in a supportive manner. Remember, being empathetic and understanding goes a long way in helping them feel more confident about the transition.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">3.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 7pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; text-decoration-line: underline; text-decoration-skip-ink: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Create Positive Anticipation</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; text-align: center; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">: Turn back-to school preparations into a fun and exciting experience. Involve your child in selecting school supplies, a new backpack, or maybe a back-to-school outfit. Plan enjoyable activities for the last days of summer, making cherished memories to hold onto when they step back into school.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: center; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Your child may not vocalize it, but a back-to-school transition can be a big milestone for them to walk through. Parents, be kind to yourselves as well. Every school year brings something new. Be thoughtful, ease into a new routine, foster open communication, and as parents, empower your children to embrace the new school year confidently. Patience and understanding are the cornerstones of a successful transition, and a wonderful school year ahead. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span id="docs-internal-guid-5ffb6bce-7fff-f5a6-a2a6-9d506163a9b9"><br /></span></div><br /><br /></div><br /><br /></div><p><br /></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-42348295579315266192023-07-24T10:38:00.000-07:002023-07-24T10:38:51.829-07:00Celebrate, Good Times!<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgsvPselbkkdU43Uc4ddf5VLz97RCO4oaNvOiO-YE7CLjay7a9fNGZgcGeH3n7GMLp-x-m_TiCbXp2SxvKNXyuqKmawOyoIL2UtINBbyktV7w5kiVaWt1XtbuqKrLc2cGatqV9cTxvkcf6VnGqwGtNcjH6L2qflxfpemjhCPQTYumCmcHP4NICyW3xY8QFb" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="3840" data-original-width="5760" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgsvPselbkkdU43Uc4ddf5VLz97RCO4oaNvOiO-YE7CLjay7a9fNGZgcGeH3n7GMLp-x-m_TiCbXp2SxvKNXyuqKmawOyoIL2UtINBbyktV7w5kiVaWt1XtbuqKrLc2cGatqV9cTxvkcf6VnGqwGtNcjH6L2qflxfpemjhCPQTYumCmcHP4NICyW3xY8QFb=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><br /><br />From small victories to major milestones, taking time to acknowledge and honor our accomplishments is a practice that holds great value. Beyond the surface-level joy and excitement, there is a needed process happening within our brains when we pause to celebrate. <br /><br />When we celebrate, our brains release neurochemicals such as dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. These neurotransmitters are responsible for regulating our mood, emotions and overall sense of well-being. As we pause to celebrate, dopamine floods our system which brings a sense of pleasure and reinforces positive behaviors. Serotonin is often associated with feelings of happiness and contentment, helping stabilize our mood, and it brings a sense of satisfaction. Lastly, oxytocin, the love hormone, is released during moments of celebration as we connect and strengthen social bonds, which builds a sense of belonging. <br /><br />Pausing to celebrate our accomplishments also rewires the brain on a deeper level. By stopping to consciously acknowledge our achievements, we shift our focus towards what is present in our lives, not what is lacking. This reframe activates neural pathways associated with gratitude and resiliency. The more we practice celebration, the more our brain becomes attuned to seeking out the good in our lives. <br /><br />Our culture has prioritized certain milestones as being worthy of celebration. For example, graduating high school/college, getting married and having a baby tend to fall at the top of the list. Today, remind yourself of all of the milestones of all sizes that you have walked through and will walk through. The power of celebration is just as meaningful. <br /><br />Yes, celebrate babies and marriage and graduations! Also - don't forget to celebrate:<br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Picking up a hobby that dropped off when life got too busy.</li><li>Walking away from a relationship that was hindering you.</li><li>Creating a new life giving routine.</li><li>Finding friends who feel like family.</li><li>Moving to a new city.</li><li>Switching careers.</li></ul>Here’s to pausing in the busyness of life to celebrate all milestones and benefiting from a mindset of positivity, resilience and growth! <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"> </span></p><p><span id="docs-internal-guid-5bb80b00-7fff-2b74-92bf-7d8bdf2a8efe"></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"> </span></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-15691470509822091082023-07-17T07:18:00.000-07:002023-07-17T07:18:25.112-07:00Always, Never & You! <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgm0FgAaj-K7lMMhIeRXAOBqb-uGsJif_L2bKO3b3TgqI3AWWwfq233YJDwhIIn5q6_dexK9L0rpXjkVyHTXZn8jh6zSpUhlDcMzLwRMEzll1DK9p-0siKMg6Ikm7lqO8WZH0ItuIzTzfEaUAjjLqBOmYu7uQOzqve6bA5x4KcXo0Zj3-JSRA9W0-6qyGWb/s3045/stock6.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2030" data-original-width="3045" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgm0FgAaj-K7lMMhIeRXAOBqb-uGsJif_L2bKO3b3TgqI3AWWwfq233YJDwhIIn5q6_dexK9L0rpXjkVyHTXZn8jh6zSpUhlDcMzLwRMEzll1DK9p-0siKMg6Ikm7lqO8WZH0ItuIzTzfEaUAjjLqBOmYu7uQOzqve6bA5x4KcXo0Zj3-JSRA9W0-6qyGWb/w640-h426/stock6.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div></div>Our choice of words can either build bridges or create barriers in our communication. It is crucial to recognize the detrimental effects of certain words like “always,” “never,” and “you” when expressing ourselves. By understanding their implications, we can find alternative ways to foster healthier and more effective communication.<br /><br /><b>Concern</b>: Words like “always” and “never” are absolutes that tend to generalize and exaggerate situations. When we use these words, we unintentionally undermine our message and invalidate the other person’s perspective. <br /><br /><b>Solution:</b> We can express ourselves more accurately by using phrases such as “often,” “sometimes,” or “on occasion.” These terms acknowledge the complexity of human experiences and open up spaces for understanding and compromise. <br /><br /><b>Concern: </b>The word “you” can come across as accusatory and place blame on the other person. It shifts the focus from the issues at hand to a personal attack, hindering productive conversation. <br /><br /><div><b>Solution</b>: An alternative approach is to use “I” statements, where we express our feelings, thoughts, and experiences. By saying “I feel,” “I think,” or “I need,” we take responsibility for our emotions and invite a collaborative dialogue that fosters empathy and understanding. <br /><br />In addition to avoiding these harmful words, active listening, and practicing empathy are crucial for effective communication. By genuinely listening to others and seeking to understand their perspective, we create a safe and supportive environment for open dialogue. Reflective listening, paraphrasing, and asking clarifying questions demonstrate our willingness to engage and validate their experiences. <br /><br />By avoiding words like “always,” “never,” and “you,” we can create a more positive and inclusive atmosphere for meaningful conversations. Embracing alternatives like accurate expressions of frequency and utilizing “I” statements allows us to convey our thoughts and emotions without resorting to blame and generalizations. Applying these simple changes in language may be a necessary catalyst to strengthening your personal and professional relationships.<p><br /></p></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-13920381563050449262023-06-29T10:28:00.006-07:002023-06-29T10:28:32.647-07:00Are You A Quitter?<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEguKjM1z6eHAll-Fn1p_sSdrPSxa9_79ULFSCJRNHLSV6s6ifITdTh51xE6POJ2HIKAoVjLUrZdrUeJ0rhUySiB3rCIi4QMw-kaRbEbQ-zYxRxAzD3HBudW2Os9bc0tXFcYz5_g0sgQNRb8hbkj55GYnawDzQdfsQ8cBwtWnJe_FIM-9Ko_DjrReg828mp9" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1672" data-original-width="2508" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEguKjM1z6eHAll-Fn1p_sSdrPSxa9_79ULFSCJRNHLSV6s6ifITdTh51xE6POJ2HIKAoVjLUrZdrUeJ0rhUySiB3rCIi4QMw-kaRbEbQ-zYxRxAzD3HBudW2Os9bc0tXFcYz5_g0sgQNRb8hbkj55GYnawDzQdfsQ8cBwtWnJe_FIM-9Ko_DjrReg828mp9=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> What if you saw quitting as a decision that required courage?<br /><br />What if you saw quitting as making an intentional move to create more margin in your life? <br /><br />What if you allowed yourself to see “quitting” as a positive and felt a sense of release from having to “white knuckle” your way through life?<br /><br />There can be value in quitting, it can guide you in how to recognize when it is time to let go and the potential rewards that await you on the other side. <br /><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Recognizing When to Quit</b>: Knowing when to quit something can be a challenging process. It begins with self-reflection and an honest evaluation of our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Pay attention to persistent feelings of discontentment, frustration, or burnout. When a task constantly drains your energy and joy, it may be a sign that quitting is the healthiest choice for you?</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Another Path</b>: Quitting can lead us on a journey of self-discovery, allowing us to explore new avenues and uncover hidden passions. By relinquishing what no longer serves us, we create space for personal growth and development. Embracing change with an open mind can open doors to unexpected opportunities and help us redefine our sense of purpose.</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Building Resilience</b>: Quitting requires courage, as it often involves stepping out of our comfort zones and confronting the fear of the unknown. By making the decision to quit, we cultivate resilience and strengthen our trust in ourselves. We learn that it is okay to prioritize and seek environments that align with our values and aspirations.</li></ul><br />Quitting is not synonymous with failure. Rather, it is a choice that allows us to redirect our energy towards more fulfilling endeavors. This summer, consider quitting something. A negative thought pattern, a harmful habit, a one-sided relationship, or walking away from a job that isn’t in alignment with your values. This is a valuable journey of letting go of what no longer serves you and embracing new paths that align with your values.<br /><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-84524557311252035942023-06-13T13:27:00.000-07:002023-06-13T13:27:37.107-07:00The Value of Boredom <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh23D6QEiDZqG1uXGkK6RhvRbqsyKKavu3wnhQ_MIJA0GJztK4e_Bc3uT2fJiDkf5FGbVcq-1wEPffxGIgcGjmtUQz5lcRKmJF4xRT4MJfgKRxTc9HuWtPSTRmIe1Pkvvp-ta0jR2GQhZtq6zuM9R6Z1rGNZgLC5JUBzbaJQC0uT2lBqV4HgMn1ebJn5g" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1672" data-original-width="2508" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh23D6QEiDZqG1uXGkK6RhvRbqsyKKavu3wnhQ_MIJA0GJztK4e_Bc3uT2fJiDkf5FGbVcq-1wEPffxGIgcGjmtUQz5lcRKmJF4xRT4MJfgKRxTc9HuWtPSTRmIe1Pkvvp-ta0jR2GQhZtq6zuM9R6Z1rGNZgLC5JUBzbaJQC0uT2lBqV4HgMn1ebJn5g=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p></p><div style="text-align: center;">Are you a parent? School is out for the summer!</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Maybe you’re bracing yourself for the repetitive phrase, ‘I’m bored!”</div><br />Is your first inclination to make sure your kids have a full summer schedule full of camps, play dates, vacations, and memory markers?<br /><br />These are all wonderful, however, maybe this summer you can challenge yourself to lead your family in doing the opposite.<br /><br />Here is a valuable insight to consider as summer break is in full swing: the value of boredom. In our face-paced world, it is tempting to fill our children’s schedules to brim with activities and engagements. However, allowing for unstructured time and embracing the beauty of boredom can have profound developmental benefits for our kids.<br /><br />Boredom provides a unique opportunity for children and adolescents to tap into their creativity, foster independence, and develop essential life skills. When children are not constantly occupied with planning activities, they are encouraged to use their imagination, explore their interests, and create their own fun. This unstructured time allows them to become self-reliant problem solvers, as they learn to entertain themselves and discover new hobbies and passions.<br /><br />Boredom also cultivates resilience and adaptability. When children are faced with moments of idleness, they are given the chance to confront their own emotions and thoughts. They learn to cope with uncomfortable feelings and discover healthy ways to navigate through them. This, in turn, enhances their emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and ability to regulate their own behaviors.<br /><br />Unstructured time fosters social development. When kids are not bound by a rigid schedule, they have the freedom to connect with others in a more organic manner. They learn the art of negotiation, conflict resolution, and compromise as they engage in spontaneous play and interact with their peers.<br /><br />So, as summer approaches, resist the temptation to overschedule every minute of your child’s summer schedule. Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-25147333828477259972023-05-23T19:37:00.007-07:002023-05-23T19:37:28.300-07:00Declutter Your Mind<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfdKaPkjCKbOzYdgG-E6hnbf-_f5XRd6TbzQgmG6wYw-eLimPtnlGrJinFEhx21Qr36BsL8zy7KXlT1A_xS0gSFsU62jQm9HUYbZMEKIBHpiCF_Bnt4mYWck2grh8DkRJlJjQ2H0TIh_Ymhd6thK0hkbA4t8zWui5OjVep-Xd0AEVCaRfmwUvTKYb-8w/s2508/202919107_m_normal_none.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1672" data-original-width="2508" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfdKaPkjCKbOzYdgG-E6hnbf-_f5XRd6TbzQgmG6wYw-eLimPtnlGrJinFEhx21Qr36BsL8zy7KXlT1A_xS0gSFsU62jQm9HUYbZMEKIBHpiCF_Bnt4mYWck2grh8DkRJlJjQ2H0TIh_Ymhd6thK0hkbA4t8zWui5OjVep-Xd0AEVCaRfmwUvTKYb-8w/w640-h426/202919107_m_normal_none.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>As we welcome the spring season, there is something therapeutic about setting aside time to spring clean. The simple task of organizing your closet or cleaning out the extra “junk drawer” in your kitchen can instantly elicit a feeling of peace and calm.<br /><br />With the constant barrage of information and stimuli from our fast-paced modern lives, the amount of thoughts we filter through on a daily basis can become disorganized and overwhelming. It is important to recognize that a cluttered mind can have negative effects on our mental health, including increased anxiety and difficulty focusing. That’s why it’s essential to prioritize decluttering your mind and learning to effectively manage your thoughts.<br /><br />Here are some tips to help you declutter your mind:<br /><br />1. <b>Practice Mindfulness</b>: Take time each day to sit quietly and focus on your breath. When thoughts arise, acknowledge them without judgment and then let them go. This can help you develop the skill of being present in the moment and reduce the amount of mental clutter you experience.<br /><br />2. <b>Write it Down</b>: Try writing your thoughts down. This practice can help you organize and make sense of your thoughts. Try creating different categories or lists, such as to-do lists, a list of worries or a list of ideas.<br /><br />3. <b>Practice Self Care</b>: Make sure to take care of your physical and emotional needs. This can include getting enough sleep, eating well, daily movement, and prioritizing hobbies you enjoy. When your body and mind are well-cared for, you may find it easier to manage your thoughts.<br /><br />4. <b>Prioritize Tasks</b>: When you have a lot to do, it can be overwhelming to try and do everything at once. Prioritize your tasks and break them down into smaller, manageable steps. This can help you feel more in control and reduce mental clutter.<br /><br />Remember, decluttering your mind and managing your thoughts is a process that takes time and practice. Incorporating these tips into your daily routine will help you begin to feel calmer, more centered and will bring mental clarity and focus into your daily life.<br /><br /><br /> <p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-50530756846207143592023-05-12T10:08:00.004-07:002023-05-12T10:08:21.064-07:00On the Bright Side<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgxxhIu9x-Z6ENyio1oBaQTqxbQcA2U_p7fxbajSTpHAGHkvsKYhtqnwXQGRM07Jw2oHmAc-Xvt75QcBpubq5lpDvj5_haVHHDRJpxDwzOAQjg6tWfmbFVGD2jGeVHSvz2JfTVAGly8EII7zV1FS5O4DBIDlGgV1raPkoM0HqOQ90VeeweH4G221glsfQ" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1646" data-original-width="2548" height="414" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgxxhIu9x-Z6ENyio1oBaQTqxbQcA2U_p7fxbajSTpHAGHkvsKYhtqnwXQGRM07Jw2oHmAc-Xvt75QcBpubq5lpDvj5_haVHHDRJpxDwzOAQjg6tWfmbFVGD2jGeVHSvz2JfTVAGly8EII7zV1FS5O4DBIDlGgV1raPkoM0HqOQ90VeeweH4G221glsfQ=w640-h414" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> Did you know that our brain is wired to look for the negative?<br /><br />In the past few years, as a society, we have been educated on pinpointing personal triggers. Triggers are cues that are connected to an event or memory that sustained trauma. The goal of identifying personal triggers is to move your body from a state of dysregulation to supporting your nervous system in moving towards a sense of safety and feeling grounded. Identifying triggers has become necessary and important for healing and growth.<br /><br />An equally powerful experience is the process of identifying glimmers. What is a glimmer?<br /><br />Deb Dana, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of, “Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation,” popularized the term, “glimmer.” A glimmer is an internal or external cue that activates the parasympathetic nervous system and helps direct the body back to a state of homeostasis. A state of feeling, calm, grounded and joyful.<br /><br />Identifying glimmers can require more effort than identifying personal triggers. Here are a few steps to help you begin identifying glimmers in your life.<br /><br /><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>Close your eyes and picture a time or place that brought you feelings of peace and/or happiness.<br /><br /></li><li>Think about a memory that made you feel safe and cared for as a child.<br /><br /></li><li>Think of a loved one.<br /><br /></li><li>Engage in a mindfulness practice or breathing exercise that helps to settle into your present moment with awareness.</li></ol><br />Here are a few glimmers you can look for in the week ahead!<br /><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>The feeling of the sunshine on your skin</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>The smell of your morning coffee</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>The sound of the ocean breeze</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>The warmth of a hug from your partner or child</li></ul> <br />If you feel this was too big of a stretch for your mental capabilities, feel free to reach out and book an appointment with my office. There is no shame in needing assistance in getting started with a new practice and a licensed therapist could be a great first step. <br /><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-89212922479295990062023-04-28T15:54:00.002-07:002023-04-28T15:54:19.075-07:00You Might Be Growing If...<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhsWKbx9Ijf9kFHjfPe-rWrtglGVnfHeeFZODvWAsF2AbUs-IgYL9903ag2rLbRU_6-0Q7mu6UG7z0EyjMEgvvunrgMu3ELYmt-NLhUhDPNB2kCHH1urmAPIB1ZN2NloQzRBkOt00TTMPnr-aSe-m-3WVAP2UFS1xBR_F1MIvsDhNBn7BOnnL463WGe7A" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1742" data-original-width="2408" height="462" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhsWKbx9Ijf9kFHjfPe-rWrtglGVnfHeeFZODvWAsF2AbUs-IgYL9903ag2rLbRU_6-0Q7mu6UG7z0EyjMEgvvunrgMu3ELYmt-NLhUhDPNB2kCHH1urmAPIB1ZN2NloQzRBkOt00TTMPnr-aSe-m-3WVAP2UFS1xBR_F1MIvsDhNBn7BOnnL463WGe7A=w640-h462" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> Just like in nature, growth can be a very slow process that can be hard to recognize at the moment. Oftentimes we don’t even realize it until after the fact but there are some clues along the way with “growing pains” that you may be missing in your current state. <br /><br /><br />You may be growing if…<br /><br /><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>You’re frustrated</b><br /><br />We won’t ever change if we aren’t challenged. Oftentimes frustration arises in areas where we need growth but don’t quite know how to get there or what needs to be modified to achieve that.</li></ul><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>You’re having to let go<br /></b><br />Growth often requires new thoughts, new patterns, new opportunities. Yet, in order to take hold of those we sometimes have to let go of what we are currently clutching on to. It can feel scary to release things and you may fall into the mentality that “the devil you know is better than the one you don’t know.”</li></ul><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>You are unsatisfied<br /></b><br />What has previously worked for you is no longer satisfying you and you want more, even if you’re unsure of what “more” looks like.</li></ul><br />While those scenarios may feel uncomfortable and you may even be tempted to label them as “negative” they are all a very natural part of the growing process. Just like a caterpillar has to go inside a cocoon to change, struggle and ultimately dissolve before transforming into a beautiful butterfly there may be a “messy middle” as you work through the growth period. Stick with it, and know that the otherside will be a better version of yourself. <br /><br /><br />A licensed therapist can guide and support you through life transitions, to help you navigate where you’re looking to go as you sift through what no longer, and what does still serve you along this new journey. <p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-68198190857502780922023-04-11T11:43:00.007-07:002023-04-11T11:43:43.232-07:00Four Forecasting Metaphors For Foresight<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjxSUH0DVyYX-dPoxqYa2Q_Us0yxe_cskjd7vIwmU0R2ylXI-tE3_ajzhERfnhBpHEXT6z93LSglIoVqcKHyCEwz9bLVKwPXNqx9TPtTzbI3lvbswSEZa92Fy_N_tnkLzss_BhtDFlS_M64X-89514NgpBt0gVoFYUpXBcRw4D6HWnh7DQCwKi_4Mh69w" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1688" data-original-width="2485" height="434" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjxSUH0DVyYX-dPoxqYa2Q_Us0yxe_cskjd7vIwmU0R2ylXI-tE3_ajzhERfnhBpHEXT6z93LSglIoVqcKHyCEwz9bLVKwPXNqx9TPtTzbI3lvbswSEZa92Fy_N_tnkLzss_BhtDFlS_M64X-89514NgpBt0gVoFYUpXBcRw4D6HWnh7DQCwKi_4Mh69w=w640-h434" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> That subject line sounds a bit like a jumbled word salad, right? <br /><br /><br />I must admit I had a lot of fun coming up with that title, but there is meaning behind the alliteration and rhythm! <br /><br /><br />The inspiration came from a workbook called “<a href="https://www.amazon.com/More-Amazing-Tools-Therapeutic-Toolbox/dp/1683733053/ref=asc_df_1683733053/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509159807707&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11619266806399756690&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031199&hvtargid=pla-1100331776858&psc=1">127 More Amazing Tips and Tools for the Therapeutic Tool Box</a>” by Judith Belmont. <br /><br /><br />Basically, she was sharing that metaphors are so powerfully used in our everyday life we often don’t even notice or associate that they are not literal depictions as they are such everyday figures of speech and nomenclature. <br /><br /><br />When one is described as “painting themselves into a corner” they are not physically talking about paint but instead trapping oneself in a particularly tricky predicament. <br /><br /><br />Judith describes how metaphors are so powerful because they allow us to shift perspective and think of things in a new way. They also utilize visualization which allows us to evoke emotion and think with more flexibility. <br /><br /><br />Here are four ways you can utilize metaphors to help you in the future:<br /><br /><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b>An eraser</b> - can help you remember that it’s okay to make mistakes<br /><br /></li><li><b>A toy soldier</b> - to remind you to be brave and fight for what you believe in<br /><br /></li><li><b>A small sea shell</b> - to encourage you to find your peace and picture yourself on a sunny beachfront.<br /><br /></li><li><b>A crayon</b> - to put more color in your world!<br /></li></ol><br />What is a metaphor that you can physically carry around with you tomorrow?<br /><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-55073658257317279992023-03-28T11:01:00.002-07:002023-03-28T11:01:15.001-07:00Reforming People Pleasing<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjL9_af4KmfiG76g0CBAfomXKDbI5OevJwpDHRGjl_ZJ75hU4HPDCpxVCBJOpoEabzIN8rcf8AwmUIWBanCTSaPG40ys4DtbyBcAZeICaf9ttomL006R_0vdyu6w3z_Co-gVaKdiT6RfV-c5k2q9oMFHcdR7PcUoE0UFZdAmR_WOsF8roB9J9JwgQGBoQ" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="2048" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjL9_af4KmfiG76g0CBAfomXKDbI5OevJwpDHRGjl_ZJ75hU4HPDCpxVCBJOpoEabzIN8rcf8AwmUIWBanCTSaPG40ys4DtbyBcAZeICaf9ttomL006R_0vdyu6w3z_Co-gVaKdiT6RfV-c5k2q9oMFHcdR7PcUoE0UFZdAmR_WOsF8roB9J9JwgQGBoQ=w640-h640" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> Pleasing someone usually feels so good. <br /><br />“Thank you for doing that, you’re a godsend!” <br />“We couldn’t have done it without you, you worked tirelessly”<br />“You are the ONLY one I can count on in scenarios like this”<br /><br />First, I want to say that being of service and having a generosity of spirit is not a bad thing by any means! If that is your gift and you are giving out of an overflow of your own heart and desire then by all means keep on keeping on!<br /><br />Yet, there are some of us who may struggle with pleasing people at the cost of ourselves - and that is who I’d like to talk to at this moment.<br /><br />If you are a chronic people pleaser, the intention is not always altruistic. Sometimes, our desire to please others is the tip of the iceberg and below the surface is a fear that says “if I don’t please you, you may leave me” or possibly “if I show you my real self, there is a chance you won’t like me and I’ll be alone.” Our brains were wired for connection and survival, so anything that would possibly threaten that existence will cause you to overcompensate in order to not be alone. <br /><br />At a point though you may lose yourself in helping others. It is like the saying “you cannot pour from an empty cup” there needs to be a divide where you are taking care of your needs and prioritizing those over others at times. <br /><br />If you are saying “yes” to everything, ultimately the person who will pay the price for that is you. You might wake up one day and go “Who am I? What do I want? What do I even like? I always go with the group majority, or I’m always the go-to person, where do my needs fit into all of this?”<br /><br />There is a way out of that pattern. It will take work and probably an outside voice like a trusted friend or a therapist championing you onward, but it is possible. You can regain your identity. Then, on the other side of flexing that muscle when you give to others it will be out of an overflowing cup versus one that is on its last few drops. <br /><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-31340042256324603102023-03-14T13:12:00.007-07:002023-03-14T13:12:34.275-07:00“No” is a Complete Sentence<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh8cjoX_xX4Adjk0ug-vBHBI9OUk2oQOLSysnnAKDUqsYx6JMW7gXYC31pkenhyySOK0FGc5-KEg2RWzvkzbDkKBqzTFpQ9m5NBpoF1_nsYHIiQ5VjJR7HIiRG4BzFCGkZLlQ2AaB5NjgzB5wV0zzZGKZmtldJzuS6mmmM-lRx660i0l1opzENlWBD_EA" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1503" data-original-width="2790" height="344" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh8cjoX_xX4Adjk0ug-vBHBI9OUk2oQOLSysnnAKDUqsYx6JMW7gXYC31pkenhyySOK0FGc5-KEg2RWzvkzbDkKBqzTFpQ9m5NBpoF1_nsYHIiQ5VjJR7HIiRG4BzFCGkZLlQ2AaB5NjgzB5wV0zzZGKZmtldJzuS6mmmM-lRx660i0l1opzENlWBD_EA=w640-h344" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /><div> It can be hard to say “no.” <br /><br /><br />Sometimes it may even feel harsh to say no. So often we cushion the backend with reasonings and excuses as a way to soften the blow or, even worse, we don’t even use the word “no” but instead we offer a counterfeit yes that we don’t really want to deliver on. <br /><br /><br />If you find yourself in a position where you aren’t comfortable saying how you really feel, here are some things you can consider to help get to the root of it. In therapy we don’t like to just look at the symptoms but we truly want to get to the base cause of something to better understand it, then ultimately, change it if that’s what you wish to do. <br /><br /><br /><b>Here are 3 possible reasons why it can feel difficult to say “no”</b><br /><br /><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT<br />You may worry about the impact that disappointment another will have on you should you not live up to their expectations of you.<br /><br /><br /></li><li>SCARCITY MINDSET<br />There can be so many opportunities you could have a scarcity mindset that if you say “no” to this you may not get another chance later on.<br /><br /></li><li>LOSS OF CONNECTION<br />You may be punished for not doing what someone else has said you should be doing and ultimately lose the connection you have with that person.</li></ol><div><br />These reasons are all very real and only scratch the surface at why it may be difficult for you to hold your own boundary. Should any of those resonate with you, let me encourage you to speak with a licensed therapist who can help you unpack your own behaviors and get to the root. You may be surprised, but after you do some deep work internally it may have a ripple effect outside of you for the better as well.<p></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-ac199916-7fff-a2a4-4cdb-67c069d895ac"><div><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div></span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-80927281720130844322023-02-28T20:49:00.005-08:002023-02-28T20:49:47.059-08:00Sex vs Intimacy<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhw2v3BC2_s2mvVf-lVdup3f_A6Xv9nbCE9NdTGBCpX0TiQsJsXRftjtJdmoZH19X7DOSDDVGATTpbAuG6iaFrtekKiaQoG92bxkUBjC0K-ORl1l9WZX3Oqn95kVJsGIP3M-g33Lip3jdMMoL7cxp9Nd-IqmIcj_pu8zJ3Tryvyguw68UoApda1GXBWlA" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="1673" data-original-width="2508" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhw2v3BC2_s2mvVf-lVdup3f_A6Xv9nbCE9NdTGBCpX0TiQsJsXRftjtJdmoZH19X7DOSDDVGATTpbAuG6iaFrtekKiaQoG92bxkUBjC0K-ORl1l9WZX3Oqn95kVJsGIP3M-g33Lip3jdMMoL7cxp9Nd-IqmIcj_pu8zJ3Tryvyguw68UoApda1GXBWlA=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><p></p>Are they the same thing? How does one differentiate between the two? <br /><br />To start by defining terms - identify what sex is… is complicated. <br /><br />It is so nuanced as strictly speaking sex is purely physical. Overall the most succinct definition is that “sex involves the arousal of physical desire and physical response to a stimulus.” (<a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-does-sex-differ-from-intimacy#defining-sex">PsychCentral</a>)<br /><br />While intimacy, is more so an overarching umbrella that can have the branches of emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, and sexual intimacy. “True intimacy involves a level of emotional connection and trust that brings people closer.” (<a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-does-sex-differ-from-intimacy#defining-sex">PsychCentral</a>)<br /><br />When they are written that way it is pretty apparent they are in different playing fields - so how does our society seem to continually confuse the two? <br /><br /><br />As a therapist when someone says they are having “intimacy issues” two questions come to mind for me:<br /><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Is there an issue with your physical response to your partner?</li></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Is there an issue with your feelings of trust and connectedness to your partner?</li></ul><br />Typically that helps me narrow the field of where we should focus our discussion time but, it could be that both are the issue. <br /><br />Relationships exist in all types of forms. You can have sex without intimacy just as such that you can have intimacy without sex. Should you be having problems, roadblocks, or issues with either expressions of those, I recommend you speak to a licensed therapist. We are trained to help you navigate these confusing types of scenarios and hopefully come to the other side with a better understanding of yourself. <br /><br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-973497993381250443.post-5995371104947237432023-02-14T14:57:00.001-08:002023-02-14T14:57:13.682-08:00Valentine's Day... Not Always a Happy Day<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjrVDFaA90Ok82fk60bMTJbqYG05xUcze1liXBtyrdNBPBqx4n3EjfTVuoIxMg3eIU4BdtqvSAfWStiSCa-cXoUTSpzoaUYg7Sx-pZOSk6dX9ML65eQuE52aNUxpZmJA1DkW-lMbNSiHsBf2yFL-FpJuxEPdlHWgr0vet_7Atj1-M8r5DvJM_bcJE8bwQ" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img data-original-height="3721" data-original-width="5581" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjrVDFaA90Ok82fk60bMTJbqYG05xUcze1liXBtyrdNBPBqx4n3EjfTVuoIxMg3eIU4BdtqvSAfWStiSCa-cXoUTSpzoaUYg7Sx-pZOSk6dX9ML65eQuE52aNUxpZmJA1DkW-lMbNSiHsBf2yFL-FpJuxEPdlHWgr0vet_7Atj1-M8r5DvJM_bcJE8bwQ=w640-h426" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /> In western culture, February has become “the month of love." Valentine’s Day is all over convenience stores, retailers, and online marketing has even made it possible for them to directly reach your email inbox with the commodification of love. The pressure to publish that you love or be loved can feel overwhelming! <br /><br />Sure, it is lovely to celebrate a romantic partner if you have one. But what happens when you’re single and /or alone on February 14th?<br /><br />I encourage you to think about love in its broadest sense. Consider what you have in your life that brings you joy. Think about how you feel about your friendships, a relationship with a family member, co-workers, colleagues, children, pets, art, music, a hobby, or maybe just nature. When you celebrate these, you celebrate love. <br /><br />Last, and in my opinion most important, is to think about how you can love yourself. Think about your strengths, the parts of yourself that you are grateful for.<br /><br />Let Valentine’s day be your reminder to celebrate your own version of love, and most importantly the love you can give to yourself. <br /><br />If you are struggling with self love, or relationships with others, please support yourself by reaching out to a professional who can guide you to make the changes you would like to make. Take a moment to call me, or another trained therapist. <p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com