As we talked about in our last article saying “no” and setting boundaries can be a real art form and we also talked about why it’s sometimes difficult to have boundaries. I shared a few tips on how to get started establishing them, but now for the fun part - the benefits!
After you set your new boundaries and start practicing saying “no” for a bit, you’ll start noticing quite a few things changing in your life. There are many advantages that come along with maintaining healthy boundaries but here are a few of my favorites.
4 Benefits of Boundaries:
Your needs are met - By prioritizing your own needs you stop looking externally for others to fulfill them and starting looking inwards. YOU are the one who is responsible for your own self-care and having healthy boundaries is the first step to ensuring your needs are met.You are more compassionate - When your own needs are met you are better equipped to recognize the needs of others and you have the emotional capacity to meet them. Having healthy boundaries and saying “no” is the opposite of unkind, it is the foundation for compassion and empathy.
You accomplish your goals - Establishing priorities and saying “no” to the rest opens you up to dedicate your time and energy to accomplish your goals. You’ll start to notice that bucket list shrink over time as you check off each goal.
Your confidence grows - As you continue to set your boundaries and stand up for what you need, you’ll feel more empowered and assertive. With each “no” your confidence will grow - yes, that rhymes and you’re welcome to steal that little mantra.
There are many benefits that come along with setting boundaries but just like anything in life, change doesn’t always come easily. As you start practicing saying the word “no” you may run into a few bumps in the road, whether it be with yourself or with others adjusting to your new boundaries. If you need someone to help you stay firm in your boundaries and see those benefits come to fruition you can either email me at leemiller.therapist@gmail.com or call my office at (310) 614-0323.
