We are concluding our three
part series on Limiting Beliefs and now that you have learned how to identify them and change them, it's time for a strategy on how
to maintain NEW beliefs.
Here are the 3 steps to
maintain your new core beliefs:
1.
Take
a look back at your life and see how your past limiting belief affected you
In order to change your future, you need to thread together the pieces of your past and learn patterns. What relationships did you enter in to or not enter in to due to your limiting belief? What experiences did you have that might have been altered differently had you not had those persistent and subconscious thoughts in your head?
In order to change your future, you need to thread together the pieces of your past and learn patterns. What relationships did you enter in to or not enter in to due to your limiting belief? What experiences did you have that might have been altered differently had you not had those persistent and subconscious thoughts in your head?
"Those who cannot remember the past are doomed to repeat
it." - George Santayana
Example: A woman who had the limiting belief of "I am not worthy of love" due to an absentee father may have entered into abusive relationships because she didn't feel like she was worth a healthy relationship. Looking back, she could see this in her high school boyfriend all the way to her current boss.
Example: A woman who had the limiting belief of "I am not worthy of love" due to an absentee father may have entered into abusive relationships because she didn't feel like she was worth a healthy relationship. Looking back, she could see this in her high school boyfriend all the way to her current boss.
2.
Look
for those same patterns in the present
Most likely, you will be either currently in a similar situation or about to step into the same pattern. Now is a great time to pause, reflect on your new belief and see how you can make a different choice this time around.
"The past is where you learned the lesson. The future is where you apply it." - Unknown
Example: She may not be able to change who her current boss or authority figure is, but she can now be aware that she doesn’t have to subscribe to the belief of being unworthy and can demand a higher level of respect from those around her.
Most likely, you will be either currently in a similar situation or about to step into the same pattern. Now is a great time to pause, reflect on your new belief and see how you can make a different choice this time around.
"The past is where you learned the lesson. The future is where you apply it." - Unknown
Example: She may not be able to change who her current boss or authority figure is, but she can now be aware that she doesn’t have to subscribe to the belief of being unworthy and can demand a higher level of respect from those around her.
3.
Say
your new mantra to yourself at least once a day
In our modern world there are so many helpful ways to remind you of your new belief - you can set it up as a re-occurring daily appointment on your calendar or if you are more of a tactile learner, write it on your bathroom mirror for you to see each morning.
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anais Nin
Example: Automatically at 12:00pm in her work inbox, this woman has a rebounding email that only has one line "You are worthy of love." It may seem like a small gesture, but over time, after reading it every single day, she starts to believe it.
In our modern world there are so many helpful ways to remind you of your new belief - you can set it up as a re-occurring daily appointment on your calendar or if you are more of a tactile learner, write it on your bathroom mirror for you to see each morning.
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anais Nin
Example: Automatically at 12:00pm in her work inbox, this woman has a rebounding email that only has one line "You are worthy of love." It may seem like a small gesture, but over time, after reading it every single day, she starts to believe it.
If you are looking to have more
dialogue around the concept of limiting beliefs, feel free to reach out
to me for an appointment. You can either email me at leemiller.therapist@gmail.com or
call my office at (310) 614-0323 - my door is always open.
